Posted by: Nick Norelli | April 29, 2008

Just Leave Me Alone!

You know what bugs me?  When I’m in a bad mood and people try to cheer me up.  Just leave me alone already, you’re only making me madder.  I’ll get over it eventually, so let the mood run its course and stay out of my face. 

Sometimes I wonder if people like to see other people in good moods for selfish reasons.  In other words, do they not want them to be in a bad mood because they genuinely care about the person’s happiness, or because they don’t want to be bothered with the attitude that comes with the bad mood?  Or are they perhaps afraid that another person’s bad mood will put them in a bad mood? 

I wonder…

B”H

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Or, you could be like me and not care if people are in this or that mood at all.

;-)

By: Jim on April 29, 2008
at 1:32 pm

Hmm… makes Norelli madder… must make note!

Is there an all of the above selection?

You know what I hate? Bus stations, full of…

Sorry, I’ll get sued for copyright infringement.

You know what bugs me? People who can’t close the refrigerator door!

By: Chuck Grantham on April 29, 2008
at 1:34 pm

Jim: Oh, trust me, I am like you in that regard. That’s why I leave people alone and let them be how they want to be, which contributes to my getting mad when they don’t return the favor.

Chuck: Sure, all of the above works. And I couldn’t see getting mad over someone who can’t close the the refrigerator door, but I can see getting mad over someone who doesn’t even though they can. ;)

By: Nick Norelli on April 29, 2008
at 1:39 pm

Ah ha! I’m adding “hair-splitter” to your already massive list of sins!

By: Chuck Grantham on April 29, 2008
at 1:58 pm

I think you might be on to something, but I don’t know if it is consciously selfish. Sometimes, we have this natural feeling that a bad mood or even suffering may be contagious. When I completed a unit of Clinical Pastoral Education (CPE), our supervisor used to warn us from trying to ’save’ the other person. For example, if someone were to say, ‘I hate myself’, the natural inclination would be to say, ‘No, don’t say that’ rather than to ask ‘Why?’ and then listen to the answer.

Many have a natural avoidance of suffering, and that would include listening to others.

(If you have readers who have also been through CPE, I realise I broke a cardinal rule by saying we and talking about people in general rather than saying ‘I’.)

By: Will on April 29, 2008
at 3:39 pm

Will: Wow, that’s interesting, and so true. I never really though about it that way.

By: Nick Norelli on April 29, 2008
at 5:11 pm

In everything give thanks! I Thess 5

Allowing your moods to control you instead of Christ is not Christian behavior…

James

By: James on April 29, 2008
at 5:28 pm

James: I look to Ecclesiastes 3 in such times. The moods shouldn’t control us, we’re emotional creatures. Sometimes we’re not going to be in a good mood. And then there’s Paul’s little statement to “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath…” (Eph. 4:26)

By: Nick Norelli on April 29, 2008
at 7:36 pm

in high school one time i drove a truck with a window right behind my head… anyone could see right into the cabin and the back of my head clear as day.

in the rear view mirror one day I saw a lady with HUGE frown on her face… like the worst day of her life…

i turned around and gave her the biggest smile i could muster…
and i got one great big
middle finger

apparently you’re not alone in not wanting to be cheered up.

By: Roger Mugs on April 29, 2008
at 9:51 pm

Roger: I would have rolled my eyes and then cut you off. :-P

By: Nick Norelli on April 29, 2008
at 10:29 pm

Nick, sorry I wasn’t there to cheer you up ;-) I would have tried really, I would have. ;-)

I hate that too. Just leave me alone for a bit, and I will get over it. My wife and I have learned to that, and because of that we hardly ever fight anymore.

By: Robert on April 30, 2008
at 10:33 am

Robert: Completely unrelated, but do you think that it’s possible that marriages used to last longer because couples had separate beds or bedrooms?

By: Nick Norelli on April 30, 2008
at 11:04 am

Nick,

Marriages lasting longer, it’s possible, wouldn’t pass it off. I just think that there are lots of other factors that play into it. One of them is just a plain old sense of duty to ones responsibility.

By: Robert on April 30, 2008
at 11:46 am

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